Posted on July 1, 2010 - Filed Under The Marina Experiment | 4 Comments



If it is not within your power or honest desire to guarantee that a particular thing will happen, please don’t bestow me with your “good intentions.” I am gullible and hopeful and so easily disappointed.



  1. Vivi on May 11th, 2009 5:13 am

    Hi Marina,
    Someone told that life is a series of disappointments.
    I beg to disagree but if that’s true, then life is about developing the capacity to withstand disappointment….It sounds like hard work. doesn’t it? Why can’t i have what i need, when i need? it’s seems unfair and ironic that it’s by the ability of delaying gratification and live with a certain degree of lack, that shape us into mature human beings. Part of me wants to sign under your manifesto and write it in a t-shirt, because god knows how i feel like that sometimes. however, another part of me wants to protest, no I’m not a victim! If good intention, is all what you got at the moment, embrace it and be grateful because that’s love.

  2. marina on May 11th, 2009 8:54 pm

    I have to disagree with you. I do not believe that promising someone something you cannot give or have no intention of giving is love. This is not me whining “I didn’t get what I want.” It is me saying “Don’t promise a little girl a doll and then say you didn’t get it for her because she was bad.” That’s not love. It is me saying “Don’t promise me a job opportunity that you cannot guarantee.” “Don’t say you can make something happen that you have no control over.” It is me saying “Don’t overextend yourselves! that means everyone! Learn how to say NO!” Yes life is filled with disappointments. And I personally do not need the extra disappointment created by an empty promise.

  3. Vivi on May 12th, 2009 12:46 pm

    It seems like we’re coming from completely different perspectives. I wasn’t trying to respond to the events that lead you to write your statement even because i didn’t know it. I was coming from my own experience of disappointmet and putting a good work for good intentions. I do get it that empty promises and misleading messages are very cruel indeed but they are very different from good intentions.

  4. marina on May 12th, 2009 12:51 pm

    Yes I see. I suppose it would help others to know the context in which I was making the statement.

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